We all have those moments in a relationship where we can choose to respond in a loving, caring way or a nasty, uncaring or indifferent way. That moment, the one that some people seem to always identify and others struggle to see, it can be the moment that allows the relationship to move in a
Just as there are some behaviours that are positive in a relationship, there are toxic ones. John Gottman PhD in his book “The seven principles for making a marriage work” identifies 4 main behaviours that can cripple, if not destroy a relationship and he calls them the “Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”. As a side
“Boxes ? What do you mean boxes ?” the client said almost yelling at her partner. While she was trying to understand where he was coming from, he was recoiling from the emotional backlash that came from his (what he thought a) seemingly benign comment. This interaction sent ripples through the relationship. The voracity of
When our relationships are in difficulty and we really struggle saying anything to our partner, how we say sorry for something we said or did is sometimes more important than the words we use. Andrew IggledenAndrew is a Couples Coach in his private practice, Kardinya Counselling located in Werribee & Point Cook, Victoria. After working
Simply put, subjective reality is the meaning we assign the experience(s) we have. To put it another way, have you ever had the experience where two (or more) people hear or see the same thing but yet walk away with a different perspective or account of what happened ? I’m guessing yes. Andrew IggledenAndrew is
